Freedom?

some of us want to be free souls. to not be tied down, but to soar and occassionally find a resting place. we want to make decisions alone, and we don't always necessarily include our significant other half in the decision making process. so we always expect them to fly with us. that is, until we meet another whose soul is even freer than our own. whose need for different life experiences so big that we become the "insignificant". all of a sudden, we are the ones who want to be tied down, who wants to be factored into their lives. and so here lies the dilemma. why is it that we want to be free when it's better that we aren't and why is it that we don't want to be when it's better that we are. and how do we fix it?